This picture was taken a few hours after I gave birth to our twins.
I’ll never forget the look on Avery’s face as she walked in my room and saw her new sisters for the first time. “Mommy there really was 2 in your belly”( she just turned 2 when the twins were born)
I also will never forget the look my husband and I exchanged after this photo was taken. It was a combination of ” Holy Sh#t , now we have 3 kids to keep alive and care for AND we are now outnumbered !
The self- doubt thoughts that went through my mind for months later was leading me down the PPD road. “How can I feed 2 babies at the same time? And are they eating enough?” “Am I giving all my girls the same amount of attention?” “Am I doing enough stimulation activities so they meet their age appropriate goals?” Etc.
I look back at this photo often as a reminder of when I have self-doubt or think I can’t overcome hard things … because I have and can and continue to overcome obstacles in our lives.
To all the moms out there who are questioning if they are being a “good enough” mom:
Take a big breath
- Get rid of the expectation of who you think a mom should look like or be
- Trust your instincts
- Don’t allow society to tell you that feeding your baby 1 way vs the other is better or that you need to have all the fancy gear or equipment at home to survive.
- Ask for help
- Remember who you are and that self-care is so important
- YOU CAN GET THROUGH THE HARD TIMES and one day you will reflect on those moments and realize how strong you truly are
Hugs Mamas … you’ve got this